Category: essay

Rescuing describes the process of appearing to help someone while actually crossing and disrespecting their boundaries and taking over their adult responsibilities

Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.

When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.

Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.

Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.

In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.

https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing

Why do you want to start caring again?

Keywords: Addiction, Depression, Grief, Healing, Spirituality

I saw your resignation—your “I don’t need anything or anyone” energy evaporate, and I saw all those folks who are in your intimate orbit stunned by the miracle of you, and overjoyed at having the chance to get to know the you they never met.

https://dearliz.net/2020/05/19/how-do-i-start-caring-again

Your happiness lies in the person that you are becoming

Keywords: blog , life lessons , blogging , inspiration , motivation , poems , poetry , power , quotes , selflove , strength , women , words , writer , writers block

Below are 10 quotes that I wrote for myself, when I felt dragged down in a pitfall, forbidding me to move an inch.

But as wonderful as life is, it gave me words that lifted me up to see a far better world.

So, here I’m providing you with the same aid that helped me fall in love with myself.

https://myserenewords.wordpress.com/2020/05/05/10-self-love-quotes-to-motivate-you

They say it is true love when you miss someone even more after letting it go

It does not let you work, stay at peace throughout the day. The other side keeps on taking care of you without asking anything in return. You do not really need to say “I love you” to make them realize your feelings, it comes in automatically – day in and day out, you both become inseparable.

https://esharma.wordpress.com/2020/05/08/my-office-chair

When a situation surfaces strong feelings, take a moment to sit with the feeling and trust that it will fade and pass

Give yourself permission to lean fully into the feeling and be patient while the intensity swells and then starts to fade. Riding this wave of emotion allows your whole body to embrace the feeling completely and then let go. Each time the feeling surfaces, you ride the wave, and the wave crest becomes more and more manageable. This brings you in more control of your feelings and it leaves less baggage hanging onto your soul.

https://justbeyoga465345353.wordpress.com/2020/04/09/riding-the-waves-of-emotion

Now is the time to adjust the sails, to come up for air, and to sail like we have never sailed before

This is such a trying time for everyone around the world, our previous “normal” has become a thing of the past. Now we are all re-defining normal based on principles of social distancing, the economy, job loss, face masks, and gloves — basically its a free for all and we are all just trying to adapt as best as we can.

https://awhite2015.wordpress.com/2020/04/10/dont-forget-to-come-up-for-air

Negative feelings temper your enthusiasm with a dose of reality, and remind you that there are risks in everything you do

Give it a try. Sit down and think about one of the problems in your life. Really dwell on it. Think of all the reasons why it makes your hopes and dreams and goals impossible to accomplish. In your mind, let your problem put a negative slant on every aspect of your life. Then, start having some fun with it. Start with a little exaggeration. Add some melodrama, and maybe a little obscenity. Say to yourself something like, “The truth is, I can’t stand your little business venture. I hate you for even thinking of it. I thought things were fine just the way they were. I’m really too lazy to bother with all of it. I think I’ll just eat a lot of chocolate and get fat.”

https://jamiehowder.wordpress.com/2020/04/09/throw-a-tantrum

While an unrealistic optimist can be somewhat annoying when you think their bright future simply can’t eventuate, they are still likely to improve your day, just by being there

Keywords: COVID-19, New Zealand, coronavirus, bubble, optimism

Given the unfortunate lack of rental optimists available to us at present (perhaps in a Level 3 scenario?), our bubble members are just going to have to harness whatever proportion of optimism we possess, brush up on our personal optimism skills, and call our optimists on a regular basis for a good dose of brightness.

https://janeshearernet.wordpress.com/2020/04/05/can-i-rent-an-optimist-for-my-bubble