I’m going to explain a few coping methods professional therapists and psychologists recommend

Keywords: anxiety , borderlinepersonalitydisorder , bpd , depression , mentalhealth , mentalillness , mentalwellbeing

Those who have had some level of therapy like CBT and DBT will probably recognise some of these coping mechanisms. A lot of them stem from the idea of grounding and mindfulness. I know many people have strong opinions for or against mindfulness, but I ask if you can try them and see what helps. All of these methods hopefully can help you in situations where your mental wellbeing isn’t okay and can help make changes to build a life worth living.

https://anxietysugar.wordpress.com/2020/08/10/coping-mechanisms-and-grounding-methods

I am proud that I do not have friendships which are toxic

Keywords: guest posts , anxiety , depression , emetophobia , isha thorve , loneliness , mental health , no friends , psychiatrist , psychology , therapist

I spent two years of my degree college without any friends. I lost all the friends I made and I was trying to be comfortable in my own company. That surely doesn’t mean I don’t like people or having friends. I do like hanging out with people and connecting with people. But when it comes to being friends or having friends I always felt alone. For those two years I had no friends and looking back now, I realize I never really had any friends. My friends kept changing over the time or situations. I never had any constant people in my life.

https://growingcaterpillar630459409.wordpress.com/2020/07/24/i-am-alone-and-i-am-proud-of-that

You have to be able to treat yourself like someone that you love

Keywords: happiness, life, lockdown, love yourself, self love

I have spent so long criticising myself telling myself that I don’t make my family proud because of my mistakes and that no one truly loves me because they all just feel sorry for me so they stick around. I often fail to forgive myself for the mistakes I make (even though its only part of being human). I’ve spent so much time stood in the mirror in my underwear just staring at myself and my body picking apart every single thing I dislike about myself like my thighs being too big, my tummy getting rolls when I sit down and leaving lines when I sit for too long, the fat on my back, the fact I have no triceps, the way my hair falls naturally honestly the list goes on and even though everyone would tell me there’s nothing wrong with me id still see it no matter what anyone said.

https://cerysallen.wordpress.com/2020/07/04/learning-to-love-myself

Spending most of my time alone and investing into hobbies that made me happy helped me stop over-planning for a future I ultimately can’t control

Keywords: brownsville , college , diversity , education , grades , mindfulness , nyc , philosophy , public school , travel , university

Being completely alone made me more mindful of how I was spending my time day to day, so I chose to explore my interests instead of ruminating over what my life should look like even a year from now. I found a healthy balance between living in the moment and planning. I chose to focus more on short-term plans rather than long-term. I continued to set goals, but let go of expectations and worry. I got comfortable with not knowing and changing direction. I decided that I want to be as present as possible because I love life too much to live in the past or the future. I just want to make sure I’m content in this moment. And I trust myself. I trust that I’ll figure it out as long as I’m learning about myself and choosing happiness everyday.

https://gsmry.blog/2020/06/26/its-not-that-serious

What you learn about yourself can be overwhelming

Keywords: rants , codependency , fear , meditation , mindfulness , narcissism , psychology , rant , ryan watts , sam harris , self awareness , self improvement , who are we

Connection happens in the messiness of life. Tell others how you feel, share. At the end of it all, the most important things in our lives will be the personal relationships.

Wouldn’t it be great if we felt like we were able to be our open, authentic and real selves?

https://thewhoarewepodcast.wpcomstaging.com/2020/06/16/mindfulness-sucks-well-its-just-that-the-self-awareness-gained-is-difficult-to-come-to-terms-with

Rescuing describes the process of appearing to help someone while actually crossing and disrespecting their boundaries and taking over their adult responsibilities

Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.

When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.

Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.

Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.

In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.

https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing

Why do you want to start caring again?

Keywords: Addiction, Depression, Grief, Healing, Spirituality

I saw your resignation—your “I don’t need anything or anyone” energy evaporate, and I saw all those folks who are in your intimate orbit stunned by the miracle of you, and overjoyed at having the chance to get to know the you they never met.

https://dearliz.net/2020/05/19/how-do-i-start-caring-again