be your own boss , motivation , real talk
I was not popular in school, and I was definitely not a ladies’ man. And I had a very painful adolescence, because it was all very strange to me. It wasn’t like I got beat up, but the humiliation and isolation, and the existential ‘God, I exist, and nobody cares’ of being a teenager were extremely pronounced for me.
There’s a magic trick I’ve recently picked up and it has proven successful in killing completely my desire to chase girls. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to and the desire to get her comes, I remember the times I’ve failed with all the girls I’ve had a crush on and it snaps me back to reality.
In other words I have quit the game on chasing women and focused more on improving myself. Chasing women will only chase them right out of one’s life. Men who are…
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motherhood , lifestyle , motherhood blog , lifestyle blog , boy mom , working mama , mama , personal blog , friendships , friend , love
One of the harshest realities I have learned lately is to not expect other people to do what you would do for them. It’s an easy philosophy to understand on the surface but when it comes down to the roots of what it really means, for me it’s led to a lot of heartache. Isn’t that a thing also? Expectation is the root of all heartache?
I have found that just because you have a big heart doesn’t mean everyone else does. You can spent your time doing things that are meaningful and worthwhile to you and there will still be people who don’t understand your motivation.
Just because you love someone’s child a certain way doesn’t mean they will love yours the same. For some people it is not all about snuggles and hugs and kisses and spending time together; some people are not impacted by your child’s pretense…
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Emotions, fixing people, Freedom, Love, Relationship, vulnerability
We can’t fix other people. We’d love to, I know. We’d solve all the world’s problems if we could just make them do things our way. Right?
However, it’s becoming common knowledge today that you can’t fix other people. Not because they’re broken and hopeless, but because you’re not them and you don’t share the same operating system. It’s not as much an issue as we can’t, but we shouldn’t.
But…because other people impact our lives, we try.
I can attest because I’m a person who seems to need fixing. I lead a pretty unconventional life as a writer. I make choices that serve my craft, not the social norm and that sometimes gets me in sticky spots. On top of that, I’m introspective and sensitive. I tend to be pretty open and vulnerable these days. If I’m feeling challenged or surprised by something, I’ll probably share and that often…
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boundaries, gratitude, happiness, peace, peacewithinme, selfempowerment
It’s important to be discerning of how much time you choose to spend with people who may not be in alignment with your own nature or those you may feel constantly depleted after interacting with. Of course, you can still be accepting of them but looking after your own well-being as the priority.
Being responsible for your own peace of mind is using your own gauge as to how you feel with certain people and taking action as to how long you choose to spend in the interaction. This gets easier as you form clear boundaries within yourself as to what you choose to do for your own peace of mind.
Sometimes, it’s just a matter of firstly being conscious of how you do feel and listening to this indication. Then you can start to understand that your time is precious and the way you choose to use it can…
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anxiety , aspergers syndrome , attachment theory , depression , loneliness
freedom , people , featured , realtionships , happiness , psychology , philosophy , loneliness
Outside, the sun shines through clouds, tempting those stuck behind a window, wishing they could feel it on their skin. As a prisoner of responsibility, one is never free of anything. There is always something keeping you back. When we think of freedom we think of it as having the capability to do whatever we want, whenever we want. Of course, the case isn’t true with the average person: there’s work, family, pets, bills, and so much more that we’re responsible for.
Freedom consists of three main principles:
1. The absence of human coercion or restraint preventing one from choosing the alternatives one would wish.
2. The absence of physical constraints in natural conditions which prevent one from achieving one’s chosen objectives.
3. The possession of the means or the power to achieve the objective one chooses of one’s own volition.
What happens when you…
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ego, friends, Happiness, Love
Ever wondered why you can never be mad at your mother for
very long? I Love my mom a lot, like almost all of us. If you see deep inside
its mainly because she loves you, accepts you, corrects you, does a thousand
other things and hence is just irreplaceable. Her entire life always revolves
around you. If we could just take the good part from this, try to use it in
every relationship we come across, we will have a beautiful life.
Mother not only loves you but also helps you become a better
individual, by being strict sometimes same goes with your teacher, your mentor,
or even your manager at work. They just want you to be better than what you
were before. If we do not put every
relationship we have, under the microscope, you will see things can work out
much better. It just takes few…
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advice, psychology, psychotherapy, relationships, victim
Have you ever found yourself growing frustrated because “that person just won’t listen to my advice,” or because “don’t they seem to recognize how they are hurting themselves by acting like that,” or because “I can’t believe someone could be so irresponsible.”
I know I am guilty of this from time to time.
These are coming refrains we say to ourselves when we are in the midst of taking on other people’s problems. Maybe we feel compelled to solve the problem for our loved ones. We can’t stand to watch them make a mess of themselves or their lives.
Yet we have no choice BUT to let other people live their lives. However they see fit. Without us making choices for them. Or telling them what we THINK is the right choice. The bottom line is we cannot make ANYONE do anything they do not want to do.
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Like most people, we want at least someone with whom we can talk. We want a friend to cry with, or even laugh with. We need a deep connection with another human, to feel loved and validated.
Unfortunately, we have a few things that get in the way of socializing.