I understand that this is a learning process, but on these days I feel that I’ve let people down — it feels bad

Keywords: main blog , my life and perspectives , website updates and news , disappointment , gratitude , insecurity , pep talk , residency

On a brighter note, I am fortunate that even on my toughest days, when my personal shortcomings are highlighted and compounded with the grief of losing my Mom and a beloved pet cat in the same year, even with a world shadowed by a new pandemic and economic crisis, in a country that is more polarized than ever, surrounded by a population that seems to relish in the despair of others, even in these times, I maintain gratitude for the privilege I was born into, the arguably indefensible comfort that I live in, the consciousness that I’ve woken up into, and the evolutionarily advantageous spark of hope that I kindle and protect as best I can. I love the people I work with and am privileged to have the opportunity to listen to people and connect with them in a time of need.

https://atlasblackcoffee.wordpress.com/2020/07/17/a-tough-day

You have to be able to treat yourself like someone that you love

Keywords: happiness, life, lockdown, love yourself, self love

I have spent so long criticising myself telling myself that I don’t make my family proud because of my mistakes and that no one truly loves me because they all just feel sorry for me so they stick around. I often fail to forgive myself for the mistakes I make (even though its only part of being human). I’ve spent so much time stood in the mirror in my underwear just staring at myself and my body picking apart every single thing I dislike about myself like my thighs being too big, my tummy getting rolls when I sit down and leaving lines when I sit for too long, the fat on my back, the fact I have no triceps, the way my hair falls naturally honestly the list goes on and even though everyone would tell me there’s nothing wrong with me id still see it no matter what anyone said.

https://cerysallen.wordpress.com/2020/07/04/learning-to-love-myself

Spending most of my time alone and investing into hobbies that made me happy helped me stop over-planning for a future I ultimately can’t control

Keywords: brownsville , college , diversity , education , grades , mindfulness , nyc , philosophy , public school , travel , university

Being completely alone made me more mindful of how I was spending my time day to day, so I chose to explore my interests instead of ruminating over what my life should look like even a year from now. I found a healthy balance between living in the moment and planning. I chose to focus more on short-term plans rather than long-term. I continued to set goals, but let go of expectations and worry. I got comfortable with not knowing and changing direction. I decided that I want to be as present as possible because I love life too much to live in the past or the future. I just want to make sure I’m content in this moment. And I trust myself. I trust that I’ll figure it out as long as I’m learning about myself and choosing happiness everyday.

https://gsmry.blog/2020/06/26/its-not-that-serious

What you learn about yourself can be overwhelming

Keywords: rants , codependency , fear , meditation , mindfulness , narcissism , psychology , rant , ryan watts , sam harris , self awareness , self improvement , who are we

Connection happens in the messiness of life. Tell others how you feel, share. At the end of it all, the most important things in our lives will be the personal relationships.

Wouldn’t it be great if we felt like we were able to be our open, authentic and real selves?

https://thewhoarewepodcast.wpcomstaging.com/2020/06/16/mindfulness-sucks-well-its-just-that-the-self-awareness-gained-is-difficult-to-come-to-terms-with

Rescuing describes the process of appearing to help someone while actually crossing and disrespecting their boundaries and taking over their adult responsibilities

Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.

When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.

Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.

Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.

In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.

https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing

Your happiness lies in the person that you are becoming

Keywords: blog , life lessons , blogging , inspiration , motivation , poems , poetry , power , quotes , selflove , strength , women , words , writer , writers block

Below are 10 quotes that I wrote for myself, when I felt dragged down in a pitfall, forbidding me to move an inch.

But as wonderful as life is, it gave me words that lifted me up to see a far better world.

So, here I’m providing you with the same aid that helped me fall in love with myself.

https://myserenewords.wordpress.com/2020/05/05/10-self-love-quotes-to-motivate-you

When a situation surfaces strong feelings, take a moment to sit with the feeling and trust that it will fade and pass

Give yourself permission to lean fully into the feeling and be patient while the intensity swells and then starts to fade. Riding this wave of emotion allows your whole body to embrace the feeling completely and then let go. Each time the feeling surfaces, you ride the wave, and the wave crest becomes more and more manageable. This brings you in more control of your feelings and it leaves less baggage hanging onto your soul.

https://justbeyoga465345353.wordpress.com/2020/04/09/riding-the-waves-of-emotion