It’s good to be sad sometimes

advice, feeling, happy, living, opinion, sad

“Don’t be sad” is a phrase often said, among others, to comfort a friend or loved one. Yet it’s a phrase that should perhaps be said less. The constant repression of emotions can feel encouraged, and yet the release actually ends up feeling a lot better. It’s okay to cry. In fact, it’s good to cry. You could spend all day completely fine, enjoying yourself with friends or family or by yourself, and then all of a sudden you feel awful. You’re sad for whatever reason, and that is okay. You shouldn’t bottle it in. I myself have a history of doing just that. Realistically, I know that I shouldn’t do it, and that it’s better to let it out. That doesn’t stop me from doing it. It’s not so black and white. Easy to know, harder to do. As are most things. It’s hard to let go sometimes and…

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The Importance Of Self Care

chakra , happiness , love-yourself , meditate , meditation , self-care , self-love , soul , yoga

selfcare-elf

Self care is something a lot of us – including me, tend to skimp out on. Whether it be because we are “too busy” or just don’t think it matters, all of us need to step up our game. No matter how much you want to deny it, self care WILL increase the health of your mind, body, and soul. One thing to remember, is that self care is not a one time deal. You have to commit. You have to force yourself to do what makes you feel good, even when all you want to do is lay in bed.

In this post, I wanted to give some ideas on what you can do to self care.

Turn off electronics for a few hours. You would be surprised at how much better you feel without the weight of social media!
Spend time playing with a pet. Throw a ball…

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why do we crave “episodic happiness”?

comparisons, happiness, meaning of life, social media

Change is Life

i wonder frequently; why is there an innate need to compare yourself to others or situations of others to realize your own self worth and in some cases even for being happy in your life.? It’s interesting to note that a large component of our day 2 day happiness is driven when we compare our “fate” or “achievements” with others.

This type of behavior has exponentially expanded with the massive adoption of social media where the access to what “others” are doing is very easy. I believe social media platforms such as FB, Twitter, Instagram, have tapped into the innate need and have successfully monetized it which is brilliant in concept but could have terrifying consequences. What do you call this type of happiness?… Colloquially, i just call it “Episodic happiness” as it’s transient in nature and never lasts for long… The examples are many – I got better grades…

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Judge less Forgive more…

ego, friends, Happiness, Love

Rads Blog

Ever wondered why you can never be mad at your mother for
very long? I Love my mom a lot, like almost all of us. If you see deep inside
its mainly because she loves you, accepts you, corrects you, does a thousand
other things and hence is just irreplaceable. Her entire life always revolves
around you. If we could just take the good part from this, try to use it in
every relationship we come across, we will have a beautiful life.

Mother not only loves you but also helps you become a better
individual, by being strict sometimes same goes with your teacher, your mentor,
or even your manager at work. They just want you to be better than what you
were before. If we do not put every
relationship we have, under the microscope, you will see things can work out
much better. It just takes few…

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Why We Should Not Take on Other People’s Problems: A Counselor’s Perspective

advice, psychology, psychotherapy, relationships, victim

Therapy Thoughts

Have you ever found yourself growing frustrated because “that person just won’t listen to my advice,” or because “don’t they seem to recognize how they are hurting themselves by acting like that,” or because “I can’t believe someone could be so irresponsible.”

I know I am guilty of this from time to time.

These are coming refrains we say to ourselves when we are in the midst of taking on other people’s problems. Maybe we feel compelled to solve the problem for our loved ones. We can’t stand to watch them make a mess of themselves or their lives.

Yet we have no choice BUT to let other people live their lives. However they see fit. Without us making choices for them. Or telling them what we THINK is the right choice. The bottom line is we cannot make ANYONE do anything they do not want to do.

We…

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The Truth Behind My Smile

anxiety, breakups, depression, fake, mental health awareness, mentalhealth, relationships, smile, travel

Clumsylorr Est 1990

When I posted these pictures a year ago, everyone commented on how happy I looked and they loved the smile on my face.

Reality

My relationship had traumatically come to an end two days before these pictures were taken.

This is the fakest smile.

I had just moved to start travelling, and I had two options; Stay in my hotel room and cry, or;

Force myself out of bed and get dressed

Force some fake enthusiasm to explore the country I am now alone in

I forced a fake smile.

Don’t always assume.

Not all smiles are real.

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Why don’t I have any Friends?

friendship, happiness, lonliness, self love

Shark Week Survival Kit Blog

In an effort to build a list for my 21st birthday celebration I sat down to jot down a list of people to invite. I came up with four people, two of which had other plans. “Why don’t I have any friends?” I thought to myself. At first I got very sad and decided that something must be wrong with me. Then I realized these things,

I don’t have friends because I make myself too busy to maintain emotional depth in my social life
I do not reach out to friends I once had because I don’t like to go out
I am terrible at keeping in contact with people
I have anxiety about my future and I have decided that every second that I’m relaxing is a nail in the coffin on my socioeconomic growth
I’m not very fun

I’ve decided that these five points are the reason I…

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