I sat stone-faced as he told me I had expressed this unfelt feeling, which he assessed as being categorically inappropriate

Keywords: updates , abuse , alone , ashamed , brokenness , damage , depression , emptiness , hopelessness , isolation , pain , rejection , shame

I sat, unspeaking, as he reproached me for being emotional, though, at least in this instance, is was not true.  And it felt as if he had driven a dagger deep into my heart.

https://rbird007.wordpress.com/2020/06/04/shamed

Every time you call out, you’re a little less alone — I want to make the process easier for you

Keywords: anxiety , bipolar disorder , depression , inspiration , Mental Health , mental illness , mentalhealth , mentalillness , obsessive compulsive disorder , ocd , postaday , postaweek , uncustomaryhousewifeblog

The resources in this post are ordered by how frequently their keywords are searched on my blog and how frequently people contact me for certain resources. Most of these resources are based in the United States.

https://uncustomaryhousewife.com/2020/03/03/mental-health-crisis-lines-and-communities

Nobody Cares About You? GOOD!

be your own boss , motivation , real talk

MAJOR MARVIN

I was not popular in school, and I was definitely not a ladies’ man. And I had a very painful adolescence, because it was all very strange to me. It wasn’t like I got beat up, but the humiliation and isolation, and the existential ‘God, I exist, and nobody cares’ of being a teenager were extremely pronounced for me.

Joss Whedon

There’s a magic trick I’ve recently picked up and it has proven successful in killing completely my desire to chase girls. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to and the desire to get her comes, I remember the times I’ve failed with all the girls I’ve had a crush on and it snaps me back to reality.

In other words I have quit the game on chasing women and focused more on improving myself. Chasing women will only chase them right out of one’s life. Men who are…

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Unfuck yourself

GeorgiaSmiles

“Yeah we’re all fucked up, it’s true.”All Fucked Up, The Amity Affliction

I think it’s important to let the weighty veritas of this statement resonate within you right now. But. Do not let it consume you. Do not let it depress you. In fact, I would urge you to let it awaken something within you. An awareness of who you are, for all your dark spaces and insecurities.

It is now uncommon in this society for someone not to have a diagnosis of a mental health disorder. Something that “fucks” us up. I myself have faced the wrath of three separate co-existing mental health diagnoses. I have worked against them, swimming against their tide in a current of desperate denial. Then I have let myself sink into a sea of resignation. Then I have let them consume me; let them depress me. I have let myself be labelled…

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Depression compression

depression , mentalhealth , selfcompassion , shame

The Stories in my Head

This week, I’d like to continue to write honestly about how I haven’t been feeling the greatest. Part of me feels a little bit annoying and pitiful, but another part of me is screaming screw it! I started this blog to be transparent and honest, and to focus on mental health. And the honest truth is that life’s journey is full of ups and downs, and I will be damned if I have to hide the parts of my life that aren’t sunshine and rainbows.

As someone who is predisposed to depression, I have slowly started to realize (and am striving to accept) that I will always have a tendency to be pulled downward into the spiral of depression. Especially when life throws curve balls – and let’s face it: life is full of those!

I have a tendency to feel ashamed of my emotions, which often pushes me to…

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Graduation Blues and Emotional Burn-Out

Health and Wellbeing, Lifestyle

Living Lovely Lives

Graduation. The conclusion to three years of essays, exams, deadlines and sleepless nights. The moment you remember the entire reason you ever went to university- to get a degree. Student life is usually filled with a manic social life, work-life and the odd party or two.

The aftermath can be a bit of a come-down. There is a sudden pressure to find a stable job, decide on a career or jet off to somewhere exotic in the hope of ‘finding yourself’.

However, what people don’t talk about is the in-between period, where you feel like a drifter, biding your time until an opportunity comes along. It can be lonely and depressing. Particularly filling out the endless CV’s, Cover letters and job applications over and over again, scrolling through LinkedIn and Indeed, only to receive a ‘sorry your application was not successful’ email. It can, for want of a better word…

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Choosing how we feel

Abraham Hicks, beliefs, depression, happiness, perfection, relief, thoughts, vibration, voluntarism

zacalstin

Having the attitude that “everything is perfect exactly as it is” feels good.

For melancholics in particular it may be an expression of providence: the knowledge that all things are working towards the good.

If all things are working towards the good, and we know it, then it follows that everything is perfect exactly as it is.

Not perfect in the sense that it is complete, but perfect in the sense that we are where we are meant to be, everything is as it is meant to be.

This isn’t a question of judgement or assessment, it’s about attitude and feeling.

If you have the attitude of recognising everything is perfect as it is, then you will feel that everything is perfect as it is.

And by contrast, if you don’t feel good, you must be thinking or believing that not everything is perfect.

We see this reflected in the…

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The Impostor Syndrome

goal setting, letters to my unborn child, paperoligarch, school, success

The Paper Oligarch

Impostor syndrome – [also known as impostor phenomenon, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience] – is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

“Despite external evidence of their competence, those experiencing this phenomenon remain convinced that they are frauds, and do not deserve all they have achieved. Individuals with this syndrome incorrectly attribute their success to luck, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent than they perceive themselves to be. While early research focused on the prevalence among high-achieving women, impostor syndrome has been recognized to affect both men and women equally.”

Symptoms: Impostor experience may be accompanied by anxiety, stress, or depression and is associated with thoughts such as: “I must not fail“, “I feel like a fake“, “I just got…

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