It genuinely feels like he is listening to my experience and making a plan with me, rather than for me

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I feel relief. As though so many different and compounding weights have been lifted off my shoulders. I feel heard, welcomed, supported and loved. I feel hopeful and optimistic about the future, and my role in it. And these are all wonderful feelings to feel, so I wanted to share that with you all!

https://raeraegalaxygirl.wordpress.com/2021/01/05/wonderfulness

Perfection results in avoidance, procrastination, poor time management, process addiction, fitting in instead of belonging, conditional self-worth, relentless management of others’ perceptions, and in general, a lack of joy, creativity, courage, compassion, fulfillment and wholehearted living

How perfectionism keeps us stuck:

  1. It keeps us avoiding and procrastinating: If I can’t do it perfect (and I know I probably can’t) then why should I waste my time doing it at all?
  2. It’s attached to shame with a constant feeling of “Not-Good-Enough-ness”
  3. It keeps us trying, stumbling, self-deprecating, and unfulfilled
  4. It keeps us hustling to manage the unwanted perceptions of others
  5. It’s a creativity killer

https://vulnerablevoice.blog/2020/03/12/confessions-of-a-recovering-perfectionist-when-perfectionism-keeps-you-from-writing-a-blog-post-about-perfectionism

Trauma 101: The Basics No One Told You and You Didn’t Know to Ask

complextrauma , sensorymodification , traumainformed

Catherine's Field of Ideas

Fight, Flight, or Freeze (FFF) Responses

The brain is an interesting muscle. It can do so much and yet we don’t utilize
more than ten percent of its capabilities.
It is responsible for all the other muscles and functions in our body,
and it is multitasking all the time (consciously and unconsciously). It has this neat thing called neuroplasticity,
meaning despite any damage to some of its parts the muscle can be strengthened
and experience some healing. In trauma
this is evident in the fight or flight response, which has been expanded to
include freeze and fawn. You can read
more about these responses here,
but it is important to understand the basic brain structures in this response
system.

Back in the caveman days we needed to stay alive, so our
bodies needed a way to keep us safe without overworking our muscles when it was
not necessary. Imagine…

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Good, Better, Best Perfectionism

I feel a compulsive need to be “good” and think only good thoughts, say only good words, and take only good action. And any time something goes poorly in my life, I tell myself I wasn’t good enough and I must have manifested it with some sort of negative thinking, and I must do better.

https://jenniferannbutler.com/2019/10/24/i-sure-hope-my-head-falls-off-and-other-negative-things-that-wont-come-true-just-because-im-saying-them-aloud-or-visualizing-them

How To Tame Your “Monkey Mind” Like A Boss

lifestyle , self development , spiritual development

World Of Alisa

Think about whether this sounds like you:

Your mind feels like it is literally going 150MPH. You have a million things to do and have no idea where to start. You feel overwhelmed by it all. That little voice inside your head keeps telling you that you will fail, that you can’t possibly accomplish all this stuff and be successful. All the negative thoughts are clouding up your mind like crazy. Your creativity is blocked and you’re always so distracted. And then all of this just makes you feel emotionally and physically EXHAUSTED.

Sound familiar? Well, it should. Every human being experiences this when trying to boss up in life. This, my friend, is what is called MONKEY MIND. You know how monkeys are crazy, swinging around all over the place? Well our thoughts are like that too.

“Monkey mind” is actually a term coined by Buddha which describes our…

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Dealing with Anxiety and Overwhelm

life

I’m GP

Life has been pretty rocky and no doubt a lot of times you have those “fuck it” moments where you just wanna quit everything and dig a hole to hide in.

It is not easy when you’re overwhelmed with issues in your life, worse off, you’re in business. Recently i realized that i have issues breathing but my health reports came out fine, nothing was wrong with my lungs, neither my heart. But i just felt that i couldn’t breathe.

I don’t live with my Parents because we had issues for a long time, we still talk but we kept things to a minimum because that is what we all realize is good for us. And right now is one of those times, i want to hug my Dad just to feel that everything will be alright. I am a character of high self-esteem and i never break down, i…

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Graduation Blues and Emotional Burn-Out

Health and Wellbeing, Lifestyle

Living Lovely Lives

Graduation. The conclusion to three years of essays, exams, deadlines and sleepless nights. The moment you remember the entire reason you ever went to university- to get a degree. Student life is usually filled with a manic social life, work-life and the odd party or two.

The aftermath can be a bit of a come-down. There is a sudden pressure to find a stable job, decide on a career or jet off to somewhere exotic in the hope of ‘finding yourself’.

However, what people don’t talk about is the in-between period, where you feel like a drifter, biding your time until an opportunity comes along. It can be lonely and depressing. Particularly filling out the endless CV’s, Cover letters and job applications over and over again, scrolling through LinkedIn and Indeed, only to receive a ‘sorry your application was not successful’ email. It can, for want of a better word…

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Why Is It So Hard to Pee Into Those Urine Sample Cups?

Clean Catch, Split Stream, Urine Samples, Urine Specimens

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Is it just me?

If it is, then I should feel pretty vulnerable and embarrassed after this. I’m sorry mom. I really do try and make you proud.

Is it just women? Unknown-3.jpegIt’s hard to say but I don’t think so. I do think requires more skill on behalf of the woman, I would think. Then again I wouldn’t know, I’ve never peed into one of those “specimen catchers” standing up. It seems like all you have to do is aim and shoot. Though I imagine splash-back could be a problem. Also I’ve heard dudes talking about the “split stream”, which would make producing a clean catch pretty tricky. But that happens to the lady folk too. So I’m a making a leap of faith in assuming I’m not the only one who has issues here. Right? Guys? Right guys? 

I’ve had to give so many urine samples via…

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The Impostor Syndrome

goal setting, letters to my unborn child, paperoligarch, school, success

The Paper Oligarch

Impostor syndrome – [also known as impostor phenomenon, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience] – is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

“Despite external evidence of their competence, those experiencing this phenomenon remain convinced that they are frauds, and do not deserve all they have achieved. Individuals with this syndrome incorrectly attribute their success to luck, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent than they perceive themselves to be. While early research focused on the prevalence among high-achieving women, impostor syndrome has been recognized to affect both men and women equally.”

Symptoms: Impostor experience may be accompanied by anxiety, stress, or depression and is associated with thoughts such as: “I must not fail“, “I feel like a fake“, “I just got…

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