I’m not sure what I’m waiting for, but I’m waiting!

Keywords: anxiety , covid , covid19 , lockdown , lonely , new normal , restrictions , social anxiety

I sometimes feel a pang of relief when the few plans that I have get cancelled. I feel a bit guilty about that, like there is an expectation now that I should feel grateful for the opportunities that we have and I must pack my diary to the brim with events and occasions. As an extroverted introvert, I’ve often battled with wanting plans and wanting to cancel plans. I think lockdowns and restrictions took the pressure off this for those like me!

https://grimandtonic.home.blog/2021/07/05/anyone-else-feeling-stuck-in-lockdown-limbo

Sometimes I ask that same question and wonder why life couldn’t have gone differently… couldn’t have been a bit smoother

Keywords: health , heartache , intro , mental health , worth it

As someone with a sleep disorder and a mood disorder I relate to the need for a nap and a snack to calm me down most of the time. Haha! So out of this simple Bible story and my own life story Nap and a Snack was born.

https://napandasnack.com/2021/06/06/when-life-gives-you-lemons-start-a-blog

If we looked at mental disorders through a trauma lens then our diagnostic manual would be a heck of a lot smaller

Keywords: cpt , cptsd , dbt , emdr , ifs , narrative , polyvagal , ptsd , rebt , somatic experiencing , trauma , trauma treatment , triggers

One of the most valuable pieces of information I learned about trauma and PTSD is that it often involves a “nervous system dysregulation.” Our nervous systems consist of 3 states–sympathetic, parasympathetic, and ventral vagal. Those are some big words, so let me break it down further. Ventral vagal is when we are inside our “window of tolerance.” This means we might feel joy, grounded, happy, content, passionate, mindful, curious, open, etc. A “home base” if you will. The other two states, when we are outside our window of tolerance, is sympathetic and parasympathetic. Some more well known terms are fight, flight, freeze. Fight–rage, anger, irritation, and frustration. Flight–panic, fear, anxiety, worry, and concern. Freeze–helplessness, depression, numbness, dissociation, shame, hopelessness, trapped. Situations throughout our life trigger these responses. If we are able to process these emotions in a healthy way, we will file them in our brains as experiences in the past, make some sort of meaning of it, and move forward.

https://thedaring.blog/2021/05/07/trauma-and-ptsd-the-3-levels-of-psychotherapy-treatment

It genuinely feels like he is listening to my experience and making a plan with me, rather than for me

Keywords: borderline personality , experiences , parenting , BFPB , BPD , diet , dietician , doctor, food , friend , friendship , medication , OCD , parenting

I feel relief. As though so many different and compounding weights have been lifted off my shoulders. I feel heard, welcomed, supported and loved. I feel hopeful and optimistic about the future, and my role in it. And these are all wonderful feelings to feel, so I wanted to share that with you all!

https://raeraegalaxygirl.wordpress.com/2021/01/05/wonderfulness

Perfection results in avoidance, procrastination, poor time management, process addiction, fitting in instead of belonging, conditional self-worth, relentless management of others’ perceptions, and in general, a lack of joy, creativity, courage, compassion, fulfillment and wholehearted living

How perfectionism keeps us stuck:

  1. It keeps us avoiding and procrastinating: If I can’t do it perfect (and I know I probably can’t) then why should I waste my time doing it at all?
  2. It’s attached to shame with a constant feeling of “Not-Good-Enough-ness”
  3. It keeps us trying, stumbling, self-deprecating, and unfulfilled
  4. It keeps us hustling to manage the unwanted perceptions of others
  5. It’s a creativity killer

https://vulnerablevoice.blog/2020/03/12/confessions-of-a-recovering-perfectionist-when-perfectionism-keeps-you-from-writing-a-blog-post-about-perfectionism

Trauma 101: The Basics No One Told You and You Didn’t Know to Ask

complextrauma , sensorymodification , traumainformed

Catherine's Field of Ideas

Fight, Flight, or Freeze (FFF) Responses

The brain is an interesting muscle. It can do so much and yet we don’t utilize
more than ten percent of its capabilities.
It is responsible for all the other muscles and functions in our body,
and it is multitasking all the time (consciously and unconsciously). It has this neat thing called neuroplasticity,
meaning despite any damage to some of its parts the muscle can be strengthened
and experience some healing. In trauma
this is evident in the fight or flight response, which has been expanded to
include freeze and fawn. You can read
more about these responses here,
but it is important to understand the basic brain structures in this response
system.

Back in the caveman days we needed to stay alive, so our
bodies needed a way to keep us safe without overworking our muscles when it was
not necessary. Imagine…

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Good, Better, Best Perfectionism

I feel a compulsive need to be “good” and think only good thoughts, say only good words, and take only good action. And any time something goes poorly in my life, I tell myself I wasn’t good enough and I must have manifested it with some sort of negative thinking, and I must do better.

https://jenniferannbutler.com/2019/10/24/i-sure-hope-my-head-falls-off-and-other-negative-things-that-wont-come-true-just-because-im-saying-them-aloud-or-visualizing-them

How To Tame Your “Monkey Mind” Like A Boss

lifestyle , self development , spiritual development

World Of Alisa

Think about whether this sounds like you:

Your mind feels like it is literally going 150MPH. You have a million things to do and have no idea where to start. You feel overwhelmed by it all. That little voice inside your head keeps telling you that you will fail, that you can’t possibly accomplish all this stuff and be successful. All the negative thoughts are clouding up your mind like crazy. Your creativity is blocked and you’re always so distracted. And then all of this just makes you feel emotionally and physically EXHAUSTED.

Sound familiar? Well, it should. Every human being experiences this when trying to boss up in life. This, my friend, is what is called MONKEY MIND. You know how monkeys are crazy, swinging around all over the place? Well our thoughts are like that too.

“Monkey mind” is actually a term coined by Buddha which describes our…

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Dealing with Anxiety and Overwhelm

life

I’m GP

Life has been pretty rocky and no doubt a lot of times you have those “fuck it” moments where you just wanna quit everything and dig a hole to hide in.

It is not easy when you’re overwhelmed with issues in your life, worse off, you’re in business. Recently i realized that i have issues breathing but my health reports came out fine, nothing was wrong with my lungs, neither my heart. But i just felt that i couldn’t breathe.

I don’t live with my Parents because we had issues for a long time, we still talk but we kept things to a minimum because that is what we all realize is good for us. And right now is one of those times, i want to hug my Dad just to feel that everything will be alright. I am a character of high self-esteem and i never break down, i…

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