why do we crave “episodic happiness”?

comparisons, happiness, meaning of life, social media

Change is Life

i wonder frequently; why is there an innate need to compare yourself to others or situations of others to realize your own self worth and in some cases even for being happy in your life.? It’s interesting to note that a large component of our day 2 day happiness is driven when we compare our “fate” or “achievements” with others.

This type of behavior has exponentially expanded with the massive adoption of social media where the access to what “others” are doing is very easy. I believe social media platforms such as FB, Twitter, Instagram, have tapped into the innate need and have successfully monetized it which is brilliant in concept but could have terrifying consequences. What do you call this type of happiness?… Colloquially, i just call it “Episodic happiness” as it’s transient in nature and never lasts for long… The examples are many – I got better grades…

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Judge less Forgive more…

ego, friends, Happiness, Love

Rads Blog

Ever wondered why you can never be mad at your mother for
very long? I Love my mom a lot, like almost all of us. If you see deep inside
its mainly because she loves you, accepts you, corrects you, does a thousand
other things and hence is just irreplaceable. Her entire life always revolves
around you. If we could just take the good part from this, try to use it in
every relationship we come across, we will have a beautiful life.

Mother not only loves you but also helps you become a better
individual, by being strict sometimes same goes with your teacher, your mentor,
or even your manager at work. They just want you to be better than what you
were before. If we do not put every
relationship we have, under the microscope, you will see things can work out
much better. It just takes few…

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The Truth Behind My Smile

anxiety, breakups, depression, fake, mental health awareness, mentalhealth, relationships, smile, travel

Clumsylorr Est 1990

When I posted these pictures a year ago, everyone commented on how happy I looked and they loved the smile on my face.

Reality

My relationship had traumatically come to an end two days before these pictures were taken.

This is the fakest smile.

I had just moved to start travelling, and I had two options; Stay in my hotel room and cry, or;

Force myself out of bed and get dressed

Force some fake enthusiasm to explore the country I am now alone in

I forced a fake smile.

Don’t always assume.

Not all smiles are real.

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Why don’t I have any Friends?

friendship, happiness, lonliness, self love

Shark Week Survival Kit Blog

In an effort to build a list for my 21st birthday celebration I sat down to jot down a list of people to invite. I came up with four people, two of which had other plans. “Why don’t I have any friends?” I thought to myself. At first I got very sad and decided that something must be wrong with me. Then I realized these things,

  1. I don’t have friends because I make myself too busy to maintain emotional depth in my social life
  2. I do not reach out to friends I once had because I don’t like to go out
  3. I am terrible at keeping in contact with people
  4. I have anxiety about my future and I have decided that every second that I’m relaxing is a nail in the coffin on my socioeconomic growth
  5. I’m not very fun

I’ve decided that these five points are the reason I…

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When Things Go Your Way

great life, happiness, incredible, love life, Motivation

Motivate Life

Life is beautiful.

Sometimes something makes you smile and you realise that life isn’t ALWAYS bad.


There is that one random moment that will happen that will just make you stop and smile, it happens often sometimes we just don’t see it, or choose to ignore it.


It could be as simple as someone smiling at you in the street, or letting you out at a junction (assuming you drive). Just something little that another human does for one another.


They make you realise that actually sometimes you can rely on the beauty of our human nature to force our minds to remember that everything is ok.


Life is beautiful, and everything does get better even though it won’t feel like it all the time. We can hide away all we like but sometimes those moments outside in the real world are what make life worth living.


I’ve learnt lately…

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Stop Hiding, Start Living

dancing , excitement , feelings , friends , fun , going out , growth , happiness , love , peace , positivity , reflections , relax , thoughts

XO Gina

Wanna know something funny? When I was 16 I went to one of those nightclubs for high school kids with my cousin who was also the same age as me at the time. It was around Valentine’s day and it was supposed to be a way for high schoolers to meet other single high schoolers.

When we got there, my cousin instantly found her friends and started dancing the night away. I, on the other hand, stood there awkward and like a scared lost puppy not sure what to do with myself.

I stood in the bathroom and befriended another girl until I could beg my dad to come and pick me up early.

Fast forward to current Gina age 22. I went to Xfinity live with my friends this past weekend and had the time of my life. Instantly when I got there me and another one of my…

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Some People are Happy Being Angry

attitude, Inspiration, life, Self Improvement and tagged happy, happy quotes, Inspiration, learning, Motivation, quotes

Brendan Dunne

Learn to be happy doing everything you do“We choose our emotions so being angry is a choice some people make;” now I don’t know about you but I always feel good when I’m happy so I choose to focus on things that make me happy. My latest thought is; imagine if everybody in the world was happy doing everything they do. They are happy doing their chores, happy going to work, happy with how much money they have, happy looking after their families, happy interacting with the people in their life. When you think about it, it’s not that far-fetched, I don’t know what they’re really thinking so I can pretend they’re happy.

I’m going to make a big assumption that most people prefer to be happy too, however, I’ve noticed that some people spend a lot of their time getting angry over things they cannot control so I’m assuming they are happy being angry because this…

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