I don’t know where it comes from, but new ideas are flourishing in my [mind]

Keywords: depression , growing up , life improvement , new projects , self improvement

Some things in our lives are like muscles. When you lift weights, your muscles get stronger. Writing every day is making me desire to do it more. I want to create new blogs about different subjects.


correction: the link above no longer works — but the same text is still available via https://padefo.wordpress.com/2021/02/20/new-projects (at least for now 😉 )

My increased sensory input is a key feature of my superpower

Keywords: advocacy , autism , personal growth , activism , actually autistic , advocacy , autism , autistic girls , autistic women , growth , happiness , lessons , mental health , mental health awareness , ourhappynotes , personal , positivity , stigma

Autism is not a bad thing – quite the opposite. And the beautiful part of it is that no one autistic person’s experience is the same as another. We have a place in this world, and we’re not going anywhere, so the more that neurotypicals begin to understand and help us meet our needs, the more we can give.


It has been 24 hours since I posted and the support I have had is the reason that I love the Internet

Keywords: family

I have had a few comments saying I am telling my story for attention or to help engagement on my social media. To grab attention from people. If anyone thinks that then you are wrong. I have been getting ready to write about this for almost 18 months. I didn’t know how much I would share [or] if I ever would. If I couldn’t write about it or felt it wasn’t right to then people still wouldn’t know what I went through.


When our crown is crooked, we need to adjust it ourselves and remember the Queens that we are!

Keywords: find yourself , healing , heartbreak , inner work , life , loss , love yourself , pain , wellbeing

The unf*ckening is when we take our power back-with absolutely no point to prove. It’s deciding the pain no longer serves us and that our truth is all that mattered. That we know in our soul, we gave it everything we had. We were honest about our feelings. We didn’t bury or hide our truth and we had the courage to dig deep, dance with our shadows and do the f*cking hard work to heal.


I get to say what I want without censoring, and this allows me to recognize the unconscious bias within my thought-process

Keywords: self-care

The best part about journaling is it can be done anywhere and anyhow. There are no rules to journaling. You can do it every day or once a month or even when you deem necessary. With journaling there are no constraints, you can write about anything, it could be how your day was, what you did, how you feel, your accomplishments, and even your worries and problems. Additionally, you can do it on your Notes app and lock it or write on a paper then tear it or burn it, or even get a specific book and hide it.


It makes everything that’s happened and everything I’ve thought incredibly real

Keywords: reflection , vulnerability , daring greatly , brene brown , writing , vulnerable , writer , storytelling , lgbtq , trans , authentic , authenticity

Hopefully, by letting myself be seen and by sharing how being who I am has made such a difference in my life, someone can find themselves in my writing, connect with me the way we connect with books, and know that it can be safe and possible to be themselves. It provides them with a little hope, and maybe the strength they need to make it through their present moment, to continue living another day and know that what they’re dreaming of can be a reality. Sometimes I still pinch myself because I can’t believe my dream is real, either.