I want to be the reason someone smiles ALL THE TIME!!!

Keywords: crazy , female , mental health , relationships , twenties , you , young adult

I just wanna be happy and I can’t be happy with anyone. I have to be happy with myself first, but it’s soooo difficult because then I just get triggered randomly. I can be doing just fine and be happy and you blink and I’m ripping your head off. I don’t want to do that. Sometimes I feel like a different person, but I’m not a schizophrenic. BPD maybe? Bipolar? Either way, mental disorders are not only hard on everyone but it’s more hard on the person who IS going through it because they can’t control themselves.

https://thelovelyyliz.art.blog/2021/06/02/im-gonna-show-you

Here we were all wishing to grow up faster, when really I’d love nothing more than to get the chance to be a kid for just one day to soak in all those moments that seem to be wasted on us in our youth

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If you still have a nickname (one that you like), I hope you celebrate the fact that everyone has some boring name on their driver’s license, but not everyone is given a nickname so celebrate your uniqueness!

https://jessthewayitiscom.wordpress.com/2020/09/27/whats-in-a-nickname

What you learn about yourself can be overwhelming

Keywords: rants , codependency , fear , meditation , mindfulness , narcissism , psychology , rant , ryan watts , sam harris , self awareness , self improvement , who are we

Connection happens in the messiness of life. Tell others how you feel, share. At the end of it all, the most important things in our lives will be the personal relationships.

Wouldn’t it be great if we felt like we were able to be our open, authentic and real selves?

https://thewhoarewepodcast.wpcomstaging.com/2020/06/16/mindfulness-sucks-well-its-just-that-the-self-awareness-gained-is-difficult-to-come-to-terms-with

You are not obligated to say yes

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The only people who get upset with you having boundaries are the people who were benefiting from it.

[i.e., benefitting from you feeling obligated to say “yes”]

https://purejoi18.wordpress.com/2020/03/18/learning-to-say-no

With Friends Like These, Who Needs Therapy?

A Mindful Repose

Content Warning: Emotional Abuse, Trauma

Well, it certainly has been a minute since I’ve written here. Life has had a way of keeping me mentally strained for a good while. And while it may be my first post in probably a year, I’m hitting the ground running with quite a weighted topic. While nearly all the information here is very personal, I felt called to share it. This may not be a spiritual post as this blog is intended, but this definitely speaks to and provides a part of my foundation in my spiritual work, and believe this mental breakthrough will open a lot of windows in my soul and is what I hope another leg in my journey of recovery and spiritual learning. True friendship is so precious and rare and has always been hard-fought for someone like me. Every person in my life has always been an important…

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As an Introvert, How Do I Connect With People? | #ThisGirlEats

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#ThisGirlEats

The first answer that comes to mind is: force.

I make myself. I have to, otherwise my time on this planet would be a very single, solitary existence and, believe it or not, I actually do have friends. Some, anyway. When I’m having a particularly bad day and just want to banish all communication with the outside world it baffles me how I actually came to make those friends but, nonetheless, they do exist.

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My social circles are relatively small and have always been forced out of situations; work, university, sixth form, etc.. I don’t think I’ve ever made a friend as a result of me optionally putting myself out there through something I’ve chosen to do, like taking up an evening class or striking up conversation with a friendly stranger at a bar.

That’s not to say I can’t form close friendships, or maintain them; okay, I could definitely…

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Stop expecting you from people.

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Somehow Surviving

One of the harshest realities I have learned lately is to not expect other people to do what you would do for them. It’s an easy philosophy to understand on the surface but when it comes down to the roots of what it really means, for me it’s led to a lot of heartache. Isn’t that a thing also? Expectation is the root of all heartache?

I have found that just because you have a big heart doesn’t mean everyone else does. You can spent your time doing things that are meaningful and worthwhile to you and there will still be people who don’t understand your motivation.

Just because you love someone’s child a certain way doesn’t mean they will love yours the same. For some people it is not all about snuggles and hugs and kisses and spending time together; some people are not impacted by your child’s pretense…

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Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

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Groomed but Escaped

Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people.  This is easy if you are completely breaking ties with someone you can walk away from.  But what about the people in your life you can’t escape?

Two summers ago I had a major altercation with my parents.  We had not talked for months, and  I was surprised when they asked to take me out to dinner.

The evening was fine.  We discussed frivolous topics.  Any time the conversation steered towards anything sensitive, I changed the subject.  It was hard work for me.  This is the part of “going gray” I did not understand –  going gray is not a passive endeavor, it is an active technique.

I was exhausted by the end of the evening.  As we left the restaurant my dad suggested we discuss what had happened over the summer.  I…

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