What you learn about yourself can be overwhelming

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Connection happens in the messiness of life. Tell others how you feel, share. At the end of it all, the most important things in our lives will be the personal relationships.

Wouldn’t it be great if we felt like we were able to be our open, authentic and real selves?

https://thewhoarewepodcast.wpcomstaging.com/2020/06/16/mindfulness-sucks-well-its-just-that-the-self-awareness-gained-is-difficult-to-come-to-terms-with

You are not obligated to say yes

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The only people who get upset with you having boundaries are the people who were benefiting from it.

[i.e., benefitting from you feeling obligated to say “yes”]

https://purejoi18.wordpress.com/2020/03/18/learning-to-say-no

With Friends Like These, Who Needs Therapy?

A Mindful Repose

Content Warning: Emotional Abuse, Trauma

Well, it certainly has been a minute since I’ve written here. Life has had a way of keeping me mentally strained for a good while. And while it may be my first post in probably a year, I’m hitting the ground running with quite a weighted topic. While nearly all the information here is very personal, I felt called to share it. This may not be a spiritual post as this blog is intended, but this definitely speaks to and provides a part of my foundation in my spiritual work, and believe this mental breakthrough will open a lot of windows in my soul and is what I hope another leg in my journey of recovery and spiritual learning. True friendship is so precious and rare and has always been hard-fought for someone like me. Every person in my life has always been an important…

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As an Introvert, How Do I Connect With People? | #ThisGirlEats

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#ThisGirlEats

The first answer that comes to mind is: force.

I make myself. I have to, otherwise my time on this planet would be a very single, solitary existence and, believe it or not, I actually do have friends. Some, anyway. When I’m having a particularly bad day and just want to banish all communication with the outside world it baffles me how I actually came to make those friends but, nonetheless, they do exist.

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My social circles are relatively small and have always been forced out of situations; work, university, sixth form, etc.. I don’t think I’ve ever made a friend as a result of me optionally putting myself out there through something I’ve chosen to do, like taking up an evening class or striking up conversation with a friendly stranger at a bar.

That’s not to say I can’t form close friendships, or maintain them; okay, I could definitely…

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Nobody Cares About You? GOOD!

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MAJOR MARVIN

I was not popular in school, and I was definitely not a ladies’ man. And I had a very painful adolescence, because it was all very strange to me. It wasn’t like I got beat up, but the humiliation and isolation, and the existential ‘God, I exist, and nobody cares’ of being a teenager were extremely pronounced for me.

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There’s a magic trick I’ve recently picked up and it has proven successful in killing completely my desire to chase girls. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to and the desire to get her comes, I remember the times I’ve failed with all the girls I’ve had a crush on and it snaps me back to reality.

In other words I have quit the game on chasing women and focused more on improving myself. Chasing women will only chase them right out of one’s life. Men who are…

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Stop expecting you from people.

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Somehow Surviving

One of the harshest realities I have learned lately is to not expect other people to do what you would do for them. It’s an easy philosophy to understand on the surface but when it comes down to the roots of what it really means, for me it’s led to a lot of heartache. Isn’t that a thing also? Expectation is the root of all heartache?

I have found that just because you have a big heart doesn’t mean everyone else does. You can spent your time doing things that are meaningful and worthwhile to you and there will still be people who don’t understand your motivation.

Just because you love someone’s child a certain way doesn’t mean they will love yours the same. For some people it is not all about snuggles and hugs and kisses and spending time together; some people are not impacted by your child’s pretense…

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Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

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Groomed but Escaped

Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people.  This is easy if you are completely breaking ties with someone you can walk away from.  But what about the people in your life you can’t escape?

Two summers ago I had a major altercation with my parents.  We had not talked for months, and  I was surprised when they asked to take me out to dinner.

The evening was fine.  We discussed frivolous topics.  Any time the conversation steered towards anything sensitive, I changed the subject.  It was hard work for me.  This is the part of “going gray” I did not understand –  going gray is not a passive endeavor, it is an active technique.

I was exhausted by the end of the evening.  As we left the restaurant my dad suggested we discuss what had happened over the summer.  I…

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Building self empowerment

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Peace Within Me

It’s important to be discerning of how much time you choose to spend with people who may not be in alignment with your own nature or those you may feel constantly depleted after interacting with. Of course, you can still be accepting of them but looking after your own well-being as the priority.

Being responsible for your own peace of mind is using your own gauge as to how you feel with certain people and taking action as to how long you choose to spend in the interaction. This gets easier as you form clear boundaries within yourself as to what you choose to do for your own peace of mind.

Sometimes, it’s just a matter of firstly being conscious of how you do feel and listening to this indication. Then you can start to understand that your time is precious and the way you choose to use it can…

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