Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship
Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.
When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.
Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.
Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.
In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing
Keywords: Addiction, Depression, Grief, Healing, Spirituality
I saw your resignation—your “I don’t need anything or anyone” energy evaporate, and I saw all those folks who are in your intimate orbit stunned by the miracle of you, and overjoyed at having the chance to get to know the you they never met.
Keywords: blog , life lessons , blogging , inspiration , motivation , poems , poetry , power , quotes , selflove , strength , women , words , writer , writers block
Below are 10 quotes that I wrote for myself, when I felt dragged down in a pitfall, forbidding me to move an inch.
But as wonderful as life is, it gave me words that lifted me up to see a far better world.
So, here I’m providing you with the same aid that helped me fall in love with myself.
It does not let you work, stay at peace throughout the day. The other side keeps on taking care of you without asking anything in return. You do not really need to say “I love you” to make them realize your feelings, it comes in automatically – day in and day out, you both become inseparable.