Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.

When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.

Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.

Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.

In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.

https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing