Spending most of my time alone and investing into hobbies that made me happy helped me stop over-planning for a future I ultimately can’t control

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Being completely alone made me more mindful of how I was spending my time day to day, so I chose to explore my interests instead of ruminating over what my life should look like even a year from now. I found a healthy balance between living in the moment and planning. I chose to focus more on short-term plans rather than long-term. I continued to set goals, but let go of expectations and worry. I got comfortable with not knowing and changing direction. I decided that I want to be as present as possible because I love life too much to live in the past or the future. I just want to make sure I’m content in this moment. And I trust myself. I trust that I’ll figure it out as long as I’m learning about myself and choosing happiness everyday.

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Do you know what you are committed too?

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Damascus Way Recovery

By looking at the results you are creating, it is quite simple to find out what you are committed too. And, majority of the time, we do not realize how committed we are to a particular taskEspecially those tasks that are troubling for us. We spend an enormous amount of time and energy on things we have an illusion of control over. It is only when we are able to step back and become aware of our commitment.

We are either committed to living a life of authenticity where we are mindful, creating and experiencing joy, spiritually in touch with God and other people, giving over to compassion and charity, and experiencing life for what it truly is. Or, are we committed to the bondage of achieving some illusionary sense of happiness, all the while complaining, living out in victimization, blaming others for our misfortunes, and ruminating…

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About Me

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peaceloveandpassion

Hello everyone!

Welcome to my blog! I’m 28 living in the Hertfordshire countryside. I decided to start this blog to document my journey into a happier, healthier, peaceful, more passionate lifestyle. I am currently a full time carer for two members of my immediate family, something which hopefully I will be able to balance more and allow me to venture into a new lifestyle I so desperately crave!

My life is taking care of other people, and while I love it, I also absolutely resent it. It is difficult, I have no contracted hours, I have no help, I don’t have sick pay. It all starts and ends with me. I recently had a an epiphany and realised I was not brought into this world to be a slave to everybody else. Usually I “finish” work and I have a banging headache because I’ve had no time to eat or…

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Can broad goals make you happier?

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A Better Man

You might have heard that the best way to achieve something you want to do is to make specific rules. But specificity isn’t always the right approach. When you’re trying to live in the moment, give the goals a rest.

In a study published in March in the Journal of Consumer Psychology, corresponding author Rohini Ahluwalia and her team described how reframing your mindset about the near future can drastically alter how long you can hang on to your happiness. You might think that if you make specific plans for how you’ll use a new purchase, for example, you’ll get the most happiness out it. “With this new pair of hiking boots, I’ll have an exciting time climbing my first 14er!” might seem like a good goal to have — and it’s probably the best way to actually achieve a measurable accomplishment. But if you want to ensure that you…

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Live for you, not for others

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LIFE, LOVE, LESSONS

Get your cup of coffee in hand, it’s story time. I’ve lived a very complex life, not hard but also not a bed of roses. All my life I’ve been the “perfect kid”. I’m 23 by the way. I don’t party, don’t drink and smoke. Don’t do much risk taking either. Always been an A student, did things by the book and always carried the tittle of “perfect kid”. I was always told that I’m going to excell and do great in life, get my family out of poverty and become an example to my siblings. All my life I had that, that’s what was expected of me and I guess I did alright given the circumstances. I was always told what to do. I never allowed myself to make mistakes because I didn’t want to hurt anyone.

For a long time I did what was expected of me and…

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The Pursuit of Unhappiness

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Reflections by Doc Arnett

Sometimes it occurs to me that the real issue in most, perhaps all, of my disappointments is a misinterpretation of what life is about. More specifically, about what my life is about.

God’s plan for me is not about my gratification, my achievement or my happiness; it is about bringing people to salvation. It is about advancing the gospel and building up the body of Christ, preparing and equipping us for good works. It is also about preparing us for eternity, bringing us to the fullness of the image of Christ.

Contrary to one of the illusions neatly tucked away into our Declaration of Independence, happiness is not something obtained through pursuit. It is a by-product, not a goal. The more deliberately we focus on our own happiness, the more elusive it will be. It is gained through surrender, not through overwhelming force. It is a choice, not an accomplishment.

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