You have to be able to treat yourself like someone that you love

Keywords: happiness, life, lockdown, love yourself, self love

I have spent so long criticising myself telling myself that I don’t make my family proud because of my mistakes and that no one truly loves me because they all just feel sorry for me so they stick around. I often fail to forgive myself for the mistakes I make (even though its only part of being human). I’ve spent so much time stood in the mirror in my underwear just staring at myself and my body picking apart every single thing I dislike about myself like my thighs being too big, my tummy getting rolls when I sit down and leaving lines when I sit for too long, the fat on my back, the fact I have no triceps, the way my hair falls naturally honestly the list goes on and even though everyone would tell me there’s nothing wrong with me id still see it no matter what anyone said.

https://cerysallen.wordpress.com/2020/07/04/learning-to-love-myself

What you learn about yourself can be overwhelming

Keywords: rants , codependency , fear , meditation , mindfulness , narcissism , psychology , rant , ryan watts , sam harris , self awareness , self improvement , who are we

Connection happens in the messiness of life. Tell others how you feel, share. At the end of it all, the most important things in our lives will be the personal relationships.

Wouldn’t it be great if we felt like we were able to be our open, authentic and real selves?

https://thewhoarewepodcast.wpcomstaging.com/2020/06/16/mindfulness-sucks-well-its-just-that-the-self-awareness-gained-is-difficult-to-come-to-terms-with

Rescuing describes the process of appearing to help someone while actually crossing and disrespecting their boundaries and taking over their adult responsibilities

Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.

When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.

Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.

Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.

In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.

https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing

Your happiness lies in the person that you are becoming

Keywords: blog , life lessons , blogging , inspiration , motivation , poems , poetry , power , quotes , selflove , strength , women , words , writer , writers block

Below are 10 quotes that I wrote for myself, when I felt dragged down in a pitfall, forbidding me to move an inch.

But as wonderful as life is, it gave me words that lifted me up to see a far better world.

So, here I’m providing you with the same aid that helped me fall in love with myself.

https://myserenewords.wordpress.com/2020/05/05/10-self-love-quotes-to-motivate-you

Negative feelings temper your enthusiasm with a dose of reality, and remind you that there are risks in everything you do

Give it a try. Sit down and think about one of the problems in your life. Really dwell on it. Think of all the reasons why it makes your hopes and dreams and goals impossible to accomplish. In your mind, let your problem put a negative slant on every aspect of your life. Then, start having some fun with it. Start with a little exaggeration. Add some melodrama, and maybe a little obscenity. Say to yourself something like, “The truth is, I can’t stand your little business venture. I hate you for even thinking of it. I thought things were fine just the way they were. I’m really too lazy to bother with all of it. I think I’ll just eat a lot of chocolate and get fat.”

https://jamiehowder.wordpress.com/2020/04/09/throw-a-tantrum

Perfection results in avoidance, procrastination, poor time management, process addiction, fitting in instead of belonging, conditional self-worth, relentless management of others’ perceptions, and in general, a lack of joy, creativity, courage, compassion, fulfillment and wholehearted living

How perfectionism keeps us stuck:

  1. It keeps us avoiding and procrastinating: If I can’t do it perfect (and I know I probably can’t) then why should I waste my time doing it at all?
  2. It’s attached to shame with a constant feeling of “Not-Good-Enough-ness”
  3. It keeps us trying, stumbling, self-deprecating, and unfulfilled
  4. It keeps us hustling to manage the unwanted perceptions of others
  5. It’s a creativity killer

https://vulnerablevoice.blog/2020/03/12/confessions-of-a-recovering-perfectionist-when-perfectionism-keeps-you-from-writing-a-blog-post-about-perfectionism

Is ‘Being Confident’ Really the Key to Success?

Confidence, gurus, self-esteem, success

Status Quo Defenders!

We’ve all seen self-improvement articles here and there, haven’t we? They’re usually associated with some handsome/pretty looking guru with a nice, mansion-owning smile. They often talk about being productive and assure us that meditation and a solid morning routine are so frickin’ important. Now, I could trash talk this type of person all day, and I’ve already made one post about them. However, today I want to primarily focus on a single question, and it’s right in the title: Is being confident really the key to success?

To me the answer seems to be mixed. Being confident probably won’t hurt you, but it’s more important to simply have the right connections. To do that, you actually don’t want to seem overly confident to people, because they’ll (probably rightly) assume you’re a stupid, endlessly self-praising asshole. However, it is true that cocky, confident people can get ahead in this world, so…

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I STARTED ANOREXIA RECOVERY?!

anorexia nervosa , hospital , mental health , psychiatric , recovery

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So be honest, nobody really knows, although I think a lot of people can kinda tell… I started eating disorder ‘recovery’. Although I never ever say I’m recovering. I hate the term. Just something personal. And I really don’t want people to say I’m recovering or use the word recovery to me. I prefer to just say I’m doing better with eating disorder stuff.

I’m not overly sure when I started, but it kinda just happened. Being in a relationship helped me a lot, because it meant I was eating with somebody. I find it easier to cook for two people, rather than just myself. And I kinda had this perception in my head of how my boyfriend at the time preferred girls, whether it is true or not I don’t know. But I personally believed he liked people with a bit more weight. So I kinda pressured myself and…

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Self but not selfish / leaf shedding season 🍁🍂

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Georgia Polly Taylor

Hello gang.

Hope September is bringing you happiness and peace. The full moon is creating some chaos I think. If – like myself – you are feeling frantic as hell then perhaps it’s because your inner wolf can feel the gravitational pull of that gal in the night sky. Get out there and howl. And if you think ‘George the full moon is a load of bollocks’ fair play, howl anyway it’ll make you feel fierce. We are 2/3 water after all, tides are being turned. I for one feel mentally annihilated, wahooo what a time to be alive!!!

Fuckin hold onto anything not tied down cos I have a feeling it’s going to be a bumpy one…

So the other day I was just sat having a lil check in with Georgia Taylor, haven’t had one of those in a while… self love/ self worth, and self care and…

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