Rescuing describes the process of appearing to help someone while actually crossing and disrespecting their boundaries and taking over their adult responsibilities

Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.
When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.
Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.
Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.
In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.
https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing

When you do make a mistake, think of it as a lesson learned

source: http://growthmindsetmemes.blogspot.com/2015/07/english-mistakes-provide-next-lesson.html

Keywords: leadership

A mistake is only as dire as the outcome that follows it.
https://josepha.blog/2020/05/27/making-hard-decisions-easier

Image source: http://growthmindsetmemes.blogspot.com/2015/07/english-mistakes-provide-next-lesson.html

Why do you want to start caring again?

Keywords: Addiction, Depression, Grief, Healing, Spirituality

I saw your resignation—your “I don’t need anything or anyone” energy evaporate, and I saw all those folks who are in your intimate orbit stunned by the miracle of you, and overjoyed at having the chance to get to know the you they never met.

https://dearliz.net/2020/05/19/how-do-i-start-caring-again

Your happiness lies in the person that you are becoming

Keywords: blog , life lessons , blogging , inspiration , motivation , poems , poetry , power , quotes , selflove , strength , women , words , writer , writers block

Below are 10 quotes that I wrote for myself, when I felt dragged down in a pitfall, forbidding me to move an inch.

But as wonderful as life is, it gave me words that lifted me up to see a far better world.

So, here I’m providing you with the same aid that helped me fall in love with myself.

https://myserenewords.wordpress.com/2020/05/05/10-self-love-quotes-to-motivate-you

Letting Go + Moving On: If you’re trying to move forward from a painful experience, i pray you get the strength to free your mind and soul from pain

Keywords: BLOG, POSITIVE VIBEZ

Here are a few tips to kick you in the right direction.

https://wokebusiness.org/2020/04/29/letting-go-of-hurt-and-moving-on

When a situation surfaces strong feelings, take a moment to sit with the feeling and trust that it will fade and pass

Give yourself permission to lean fully into the feeling and be patient while the intensity swells and then starts to fade. Riding this wave of emotion allows your whole body to embrace the feeling completely and then let go. Each time the feeling surfaces, you ride the wave, and the wave crest becomes more and more manageable. This brings you in more control of your feelings and it leaves less baggage hanging onto your soul.

https://justbeyoga465345353.wordpress.com/2020/04/09/riding-the-waves-of-emotion

Negative feelings temper your enthusiasm with a dose of reality, and remind you that there are risks in everything you do

Give it a try. Sit down and think about one of the problems in your life. Really dwell on it. Think of all the reasons why it makes your hopes and dreams and goals impossible to accomplish. In your mind, let your problem put a negative slant on every aspect of your life. Then, start having some fun with it. Start with a little exaggeration. Add some melodrama, and maybe a little obscenity. Say to yourself something like, “The truth is, I can’t stand your little business venture. I hate you for even thinking of it. I thought things were fine just the way they were. I’m really too lazy to bother with all of it. I think I’ll just eat a lot of chocolate and get fat.”

https://jamiehowder.wordpress.com/2020/04/09/throw-a-tantrum

Walking activates the left and right hemispheres of your brain which helps you sort your thoughts, develop insights and become less distressed

This left to right movement integrates neural networks which can even help resolve traumatic memories.

https://weareroberts.wordpress.com/2020/04/07/walking-is-basically-trending

Once you know that we’re all a little bit imperfect, it’s easier to let yourself be imperfect, too

Keywords: leadership

Being vulnerable can make us terribly sad, but it can also open us up to the possibility of being terribly happy. Because once you know that we’re all a little bit imperfect, it’s easier to let yourself be imperfect, too.

https://josepha.blog/2020/03/04/the-power-of-vulnerability

Quitting your job for happiness

anxiety, blog, depression, job, life, mental, health, mental health, blog, motivation

Creative 4 The Mind

I don’t usually talk about my mental health but I’ve always kept it in and now that I’ve created this blog I can actually start to tell someone. In the end i just want to be happy and help others in my situations.

Mental health is something that occurs in most peoples lives at least once in their lifetime. In these times now we are more open about mental health and more aware of it which is good that because when I was younger I didn’t really understand why I was feeling sad and down and now I am more aware and i can understand how to cope with it.

If I was to write everything going on in my head right now, I really wouldn’t know where to start. I created this blog to get thoughts off my mind and to explain my feelings and how i got to…

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