The consequence of conditional happiness

experience, happiness, joy, mindset

The Daily Gemm

It often begins with the phrase ‘I’ll be happy when…’.

I’ve done it a multitude of times. I’ve said it about grades, employment, relationships and even my weight. But I’ve come to find that when I finally get the things I’m seeking they don’t actually make me happier.

One east example is from a couple of years ago when I was unemployed and I felt like once I found a job I’d be so much happier. In the end I managed to get 2 part-time jobs yet they failed to bring the fulfillment that I had anticipated.

So then, I ended up busier than I had been before and I still had this great feeling of discontentment.

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How do you show yourself love?

confidence, happiness, love, selfcare, selfhelp, selflove, strength, yourself

Major Issues

The tone of my blog is mostly lighthearted as this is the vibe I try to share and attract to others, with as much humor as appropriately possible. This mentality keeps me positive and in good spirits, but there are naturally times when it is important to be more serious. Today I want to discuss the importance of loving yourself and the best ways to show yourself the tender love it so desperately needs.

One of the most important things to becoming a stronger and overall better person is loving yourself first. If you aren’t happy with yourself then everything you project out into the world will also hold some of this unhappiness and come on now, that’s not fair to anybody else. This by no way means being happy and showing love all the time because we all know that is not realistic or possible. Some days I…

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Be strong and learn to say NO

blogging, freedom, happiness, happy, inspiration, joy, life, love, motivation, sad, silence, success, wisdom

Happiness Inception

The riding analogy means someone else can’t have power over you (ride you like an animal) if you are standing tall and proud. If people are beaten down, or feel they are, their backs are figuratively bent and therefore other people can exploit this weakness. Therefore, be strong and affirmative. It does not imply that you need to be rude and arrogant but be bold enough to state your argument in a logical but firm manner. Never surrender yourself so much so that the other person takes advantage of you.

Few days back I was thinking few days from my past, the sad and horrible days, and why did that happen to me. That was merely because I did not stand firm enough, I did voice enough. And I did not say NO at the right time and that was the time when I fell weak and my trust was…

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It’s All in Your Attitude

attitude, encouragement, happiness


Daryl Roy – LinkedIn

Smiling and laughing are contagious. I’ve seen videos where someone on a bus will start to laugh and all around him start laughing, too, even though they have no clue what is funny. I’ve seen faces of seeming bitter old people break out in a truly wonderful smile when someone smiles at THEM.

I’ve been in a sad state of mind and DECIDED I would smile at people (and animals) wherever I saw them. Not only did most smile back at me, MY spirits were raised, as well!

I have decided that attitude is all in life. You can’t control much of what happens to you and around you. You CAN control your reaction to it. I’m not saying I think one should go around with a silly grin on your face regardless of what is happening around you. I AM saying that many times you…

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Training in Uncertainty

fitness , health , wellness

Debora Mary - Blog

?We are always in transition. If you can just relax with that, you?ll have no problem.? -Chogyam Trungpa

By Leo Babauta

I?ve been training in uncertainty for a few years now.

I realized that the people I coach and teach are just like me: we feel shaky, scared, anxious, uncomfortable when we are faced with massive uncertainty, when the ground is pulled out from under our feet.

This shakiness is the cause of our procrastination, hiding from overwhelming projects, running from discomfort, and putting off exercise, healthy eating, meditation, writing, reading and all the other things we want in our lives.

And so, if we can train in uncertainty, we can get good at life. We no longer need to fear groundlessness.

What does it mean to train in uncertainty?

It means to constantly yank the rug out from under your feet.

When you get comfortable with something, you have…

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