proving the cheery people wrong

cheery, happy, pessimism, pessimistic, realist, realistic, rejecting the cheery

iconquersuicide's avatarI Conquer Suicide Everyday

One thing I’ve realized is that I have this weird need to prove the cheery people wrong. The ones that are always trying to end cap something with *well at least* and *let me send you cat pictures to cheer you up*.

I don’t really know for sure why. I don’t mean to be a debbie downer. I’m not actually. But with them, it’s almost as though I am on purpose. Like I’m a complete realist. I don’t tell them what’s going on with the rose -colored optimism and a lift up on the end. I tell them with the exact opposite. The grim, straight-laced reality version. I’m working but it’s still not enough. I have great feedback but don’t know how to make it into an income stream. I’ve got a ton of bills that need to be paid yesterday and no idea how they will be. Yes, the…

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Happiness or wellbeing?

happiness, meaning, wellbeing

David Bott's avatarDavid's Blog

Are you well? Are you happy? Can you be one without the other? And what is the difference anyway?

Kahneman and Riis explain that our sense of happiness is affected by two factors: how positive we feel right now (‘experienced’ happiness) and how positive we feel our life has been overall (‘evaluated’ happiness).

Wellbeing is more complex. It is a concept that incorporates happiness but also involves our perceived ability to function successfully in the world. How much control do you feel in life? How much meaning do you derive from life? How much do you feel that what you are doing matters?

Wellbeing is about good feelingandgood function. This is why Positive Education and Positive Psychology are, ultimately, focussed on developing wellbeing.

But don’t dismiss happiness itself. Remember that happiness, in its own right, is linked to better health, greater productivity, reduced depression, stronger relationships, and…

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About Me

carer , contentment , dreams , goals , happiness , health , innerpeace , journey , lifestyle , weightloss

Joanna's avatarpeaceloveandpassion

Hello everyone!

Welcome to my blog! I’m 28 living in the Hertfordshire countryside. I decided to start this blog to document my journey into a happier, healthier, peaceful, more passionate lifestyle. I am currently a full time carer for two members of my immediate family, something which hopefully I will be able to balance more and allow me to venture into a new lifestyle I so desperately crave!

My life is taking care of other people, and while I love it, I also absolutely resent it. It is difficult, I have no contracted hours, I have no help, I don’t have sick pay. It all starts and ends with me. I recently had a an epiphany and realised I was not brought into this world to be a slave to everybody else. Usually I “finish” work and I have a banging headache because I’ve had no time to eat or…

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Not Everyone Wants to Be Happy

advice , goals , happiness , psychology , psychotherapy

Erin Theodorou's avatarErin Theodorou, M.Ed, LPC, ACS, NCC

One of the most common goals people express is their desire to be happy.

As Americans, our Declaration of Independence speaks to our  right to the “pursuit of happiness” ie our RIGHT to chase whatever our subjective happiness may be. We have a right to PURSUE happiness but obtaining it is not a given.

As a culture, we spend boatloads of money trying to figure out what EXACTLY personal happiness means to us. For Americans, happiness is almost an OBSESSION. The desire for it is woven into the fabric of our culture but in other parts of the world happiness is held in less esteem.

Often people turn to counseling with the objective “to be happier” at the end of the treatment process. Many of us search for happiness like the holy grail.

But happiness as a goal is not desired by all. The truth is not everyone wants to…

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Learning how to look up instead of always looking down

20s , finding yourself , happiness , life , love , love yourself , off the grid , self help , social media

Renee D'Angelo's avatarFree your Mind and Spirit

It’s true when they say, you can’t love anyone else until you truly love yourself. You’re probably reading this saying, “isn’t this the girl who had previously wrote a blog about self love?” Yes, I am. The thing is I truly thought I loved myself. Sure, I had went through a lot of life lessons that made me rise above and learn to take care of myself but I didn’t try to love myself for the right reasons. I made myself believe I loved myself so other people would think I did to.

It’s 2019. Social media rules the world. Even our parents AND grandparents have a Facebook. Being a millennial (I’m not saying anything bad about millennials, millennial activists) I grew up in the age of MySpace. Since middle school, I had learned how cyberspace can literally define friendships, life events, relationship status, etc. Its…

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The Joy of Silly

Britney Spears, fun, joy, paper towels, shamers, silly, sock puppets

Skinnygrlluvs2eat's avatarFoodwinejunkie's Blog

When did you stop being silly? Was it at age seven when your Mom told you that you were too old to run around with your older sister’s bra strapped to your head? Or was it at age thirteen when upon entering junior high, a group of kids laughed at you as you did the Irish jig in the cafeteria? Or maybe it was later in life when a significant other or good friend “silly-shamed” you for pretending to be a mannequin in a department store? Whatever the age, it is time for you to rediscover the joy of being silly.

Now, you may be wondering how I came up with the examples of silliness, well it was easy, I have done every single one of them and more. Hello, my name is Tracy and I am silly. But it was not always that way. I have been “silly shamed”…

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