I Have No Idea What I’m Doing

empathy , introspection , personal growth , self confidence , social media

L'épanouissement

In university, a classmate of mine once told me, “you always look like you’ve got your shit together.” I laughed, thinking that he must be joking, but he didn’t laugh with me. This guy really thought I had everything figured out. Me, the girl who had to hold cold spoons to her face before meeting him for lunch to hide the puffiness from her stress crying. Me, the one with hopelessly dark circles beneath her eyes from staying awake all night freaking out about the uncertainty of the future. That’s the me who looks like she’s got everything figured out?

Apparently so, because that wasn’t the first or last time I heard someone say that about me. Years later on my first trip to France, I met one of my husband’s co-workers, and by “met” I mean that I was too shy to speak much French and let him do…

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why do we crave “episodic happiness”?

comparisons, happiness, meaning of life, social media

Change is Life

i wonder frequently; why is there an innate need to compare yourself to others or situations of others to realize your own self worth and in some cases even for being happy in your life.? It’s interesting to note that a large component of our day 2 day happiness is driven when we compare our “fate” or “achievements” with others.

This type of behavior has exponentially expanded with the massive adoption of social media where the access to what “others” are doing is very easy. I believe social media platforms such as FB, Twitter, Instagram, have tapped into the innate need and have successfully monetized it which is brilliant in concept but could have terrifying consequences. What do you call this type of happiness?… Colloquially, i just call it “Episodic happiness” as it’s transient in nature and never lasts for long… The examples are many – I got better grades…

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