Black Dog & Meds & Nature & Other Stuff

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Bridget Phetasy and her co-host/husband Jeren Montgomery, a licensed marriage & family therapist, discuss depression this week. They talk about their own personal experiences with it, their first exposure to the concept of “depression”, how much therapeutic language has crept into everything, whether we’ve pathologized a lot of behavior that’s somewhat normal in order to be able to prescribe medication, why two drug addicts were both resistant to prescribed pharmaceuticals, and their Factory Settings around medication for depression. They also discuss what being on anti-depressants feels like, the red flags they’ve noticed when they’re slipping into a depressive state, psychiatrists vs psychologists, how depression can lie to you in your own voice, the feeling of hopelessness and inability to do the things you know you need to be doing in order to feel better, and the importance of asking for help.
https://bridgetphetasy.substack.com/p/-factory-settings-30

I am not where I thought I would be in my life

Keywords: anxiety , books , crisis help , depression , frogger , goodreads , help , helplines , mental health , ptsd , reaching out , suicide prevention

While I LOVE,LOVE,LOVE my books, I love my child: I thought that by now that I would not be where I am but in a better space. I could be in a worse one but I do not feel like I am where I should be. I absolutely love my kid and would do anything for them( I only have one but I feel like using this identifier for the moment).
https://ravinscarface.wordpress.com/2021/07/05/reaching-out

I want to create a place that is safe and positive and where I can also share my knowledge and insight and maybe help someone else

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My name is Angie and I am from a small town in Iowa. I was born and raised in the same town and have only live a little bit of my life in towns nearby. I am creating a place where I can share my journey on the road to healing and finding peace. I have lived with depression and anxiety most of my life and feel like it is time to share and help others with their journey.
https://bravespiritfiercemind.wordpress.com

Being hopeful can be an extremely difficult thing to do

Keywords: anxiety , depression , help , hope , trauma

I’m currently unemployed. A ton of my bills and my rent are late. My phone bill is on a payment arrangement and I’m worried I won’t be able to pay it because I don’t have any income. However, during this time I’ve been unemployed, I got set up with a therapist. It was hard saying goodbye to my last therapist. She was really great. My new therapist specializes in trauma and separation, depression and anxiety. She’s a good fit for me and I’m looking forward to the work we will do together. I also got set up with WIC, and an EBT card. I wasn’t able to get unemployment insurance due to not living in this state long enough, but I may be able to apply for Minnesota. I have hope because when I ask for help, there are people and resources out there for me.
https://mamadiaries.net/2020/07/07/why-i-still-have-hope

Rescuing describes the process of appearing to help someone while actually crossing and disrespecting their boundaries and taking over their adult responsibilities

Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.
When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.
Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.
Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.
In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.
https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing

Why We Should Not Take on Other People’s Problems: A Counselor’s Perspective

advice, psychology, psychotherapy, relationships, victim

Erin Theodorou, M.Ed, LPC, ACS, NCC

Have you ever found yourself growing frustrated because “that person just won’t listen to my advice,” or because “don’t they seem to recognize how they are hurting themselves by acting like that,” or because “I can’t believe someone could be so irresponsible.”

I know I am guilty of this from time to time.

These are coming refrains we say to ourselves when we are in the midst of taking on other people’s problems. Maybe we feel compelled to solve the problem for our loved ones. We can’t stand to watch them make a mess of themselves or their lives.

Yet we have no choice BUT to let other people live their lives. However they see fit. Without us making choices for them. Or telling them what we THINK is the right choice. The bottom line is we cannot make ANYONE do anything they do not want to do.

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I need a little help to get by

adjust, assistance, challenges, change, difficulties, guidance, happiness, Help, Life, transformation

A Moment In My Mind

I don’t ask for help. I am just learning to ask for information I need for work or other things I may need answers too. This week of the flu and the revelations that lying in bed have provided has shown me that I need to ask for help, assistance and then receive it when it comes.

I need to look for more help, professional help to assist me understand what way next for me and what steps I need to get there. If I’m honest with myself the thought of progressing, changing and transforming my life scares me. Can you imagine having the life you’ve always wanted? Petrifying right?

So what is one of the main things that you know if you addressed it that would mean the ending and beginning of everything????

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