When can I start enjoying life?

Abraham Hicks, burdens, childhood, happiness, joy, suffering, virtue

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I was taught as a child that if I just endured, shared in the burden, and patiently helped out, then we could all relax together when the struggles and the chores were complete.

I was taught that it was selfish to be happy and feel good and enjoy life when other people are suffering and burdened, especially when they are burdened for your sake.

I accepted and internalised these themes, and I even believed they were virtuous.

Messed up virtues

The first theme sounds a bit like delayed gratification, except that delayed gratification is still all about the enjoyment that awaits in the future, whereas I was taught to focus firmly on the burdens that exist in the present.

Not so much that it’s more satisfying to relax in a nice clean house; more that you should not relax when there are things that need to be done…and aren’t there…

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The Joy of Silly

Britney Spears, fun, joy, paper towels, shamers, silly, sock puppets

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When did you stop being silly? Was it at age seven when your Mom told you that you were too old to run around with your older sister’s bra strapped to your head? Or was it at age thirteen when upon entering junior high, a group of kids laughed at you as you did the Irish jig in the cafeteria? Or maybe it was later in life when a significant other or good friend “silly-shamed” you for pretending to be a mannequin in a department store? Whatever the age, it is time for you to rediscover the joy of being silly.

Now, you may be wondering how I came up with the examples of silliness, well it was easy, I have done every single one of them and more. Hello, my name is Tracy and I am silly. But it was not always that way. I have been “silly shamed”…

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The Most Common Excuse

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Defining Yellow

“I don’t have time” – Everyone

As much as we might hope or expect it to, life is not going to slow down so you can finally start your project, finish your book, take that trip or get some alone time. We all have the same amount of time in the day and we each have to learn how to get what we need in the time that we have. Or you don’t, which probably makes you feel overwhelmed and angry and eventually exhausted. You might start to feel like you don’t have a say in what you do because your time is owned by everyone else.  

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Inward Joy, Outward Expression

Happiness, Joy

Still Finding God

My sister came to Mass with us today. The parish was welcoming those who are coming into the church. The group consisted of people from young children to older adults. They were very serious as they recited their words. I’m sure they were nervous being up in front of everyone. As they processed out together, most of them still had on their serious face. However, one man was just beaming. My sister pointed him out and said how she loved his smile. He was in fact smiling from ear to ear. He was so joyful inside that it radiate in his expression. It made us smile probably others as well.

I Found God today in a beautiful expression of joy.

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