Sensitive people have so much to offer the world — we’re the peacekeepers and the shoulders people cry on, and we’re the ones people want to live next to because we are respectful of noise levels — but we just need the space to do that

Keywords: relatable

The more nurtured we feel, the more we can tune in to our gifts, and the more we can be of service to the world.

https://highlysensitiverefuge.com/sensitive-doesnt-mean-what-you-think-it-means

What you learn about yourself can be overwhelming

Keywords: rants , codependency , fear , meditation , mindfulness , narcissism , psychology , rant , ryan watts , sam harris , self awareness , self improvement , who are we

Connection happens in the messiness of life. Tell others how you feel, share. At the end of it all, the most important things in our lives will be the personal relationships.

Wouldn’t it be great if we felt like we were able to be our open, authentic and real selves?

https://thewhoarewepodcast.wpcomstaging.com/2020/06/16/mindfulness-sucks-well-its-just-that-the-self-awareness-gained-is-difficult-to-come-to-terms-with

Rescuing describes the process of appearing to help someone while actually crossing and disrespecting their boundaries and taking over their adult responsibilities

Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.

When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.

Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.

Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.

In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.

https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing

Why We Should Not Take on Other People’s Problems: A Counselor’s Perspective

advice, psychology, psychotherapy, relationships, victim

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Have you ever found yourself growing frustrated because “that person just won’t listen to my advice,” or because “don’t they seem to recognize how they are hurting themselves by acting like that,” or because “I can’t believe someone could be so irresponsible.”

I know I am guilty of this from time to time.

These are coming refrains we say to ourselves when we are in the midst of taking on other people’s problems. Maybe we feel compelled to solve the problem for our loved ones.  We can’t stand to watch them make a mess of themselves or their lives.

Yet we have no choice BUT to let other people live their lives. However they see fit. Without us making choices for them.  Or telling them what we THINK is the right choice. The bottom line is we cannot make ANYONE do anything they do not want to do.

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