I am not where I thought I would be in my life

Keywords: anxiety , books , crisis help , depression , frogger , goodreads , help , helplines , mental health , ptsd , reaching out , suicide prevention

While I LOVE,LOVE,LOVE my books, I love my child: I thought that by now that I would not be where I am but in a better space. I could be in a worse one but I do not feel like I am where I should be. I absolutely love my kid and would do anything for them( I only have one but I feel like using this identifier for the moment).
https://ravinscarface.wordpress.com/2021/07/05/reaching-out

I failed at being self-sufficient

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It was a bit of a rough start though. How does this explain my alcoholism though? I have no clue, I just know that I am grateful to be alive. Now let’s talk about my addiction and the things that could have killed me.
https://mikeyspsyche.wordpress.com/2021/01/18/addiction

It genuinely feels like he is listening to my experience and making a plan with me, rather than for me

Keywords: borderline personality , experiences , parenting , BFPB , BPD , diet , dietician , doctor, food , friend , friendship , medication , OCD , parenting

I feel relief. As though so many different and compounding weights have been lifted off my shoulders. I feel heard, welcomed, supported and loved. I feel hopeful and optimistic about the future, and my role in it. And these are all wonderful feelings to feel, so I wanted to share that with you all!
https://raeraegalaxygirl.wordpress.com/2021/01/05/wonderfulness

Rescuing describes the process of appearing to help someone while actually crossing and disrespecting their boundaries and taking over their adult responsibilities

Keywords: codependency, grandiosity, rescuing, unhealthy relationship

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of need for help, advice or support. Very often we don’t realise that our judgements create our reality of them. A reality that might not match the perceptions of others or even their own.
When we do not take the other person’s reality, perspective and abilities into account, we solely rely on our own judgements and we may engage in the act of rescuing. We may believe that we are doing a kind thing, an honourable thing. But the truth is very different.
Rescuing is not an honourable thing. It is not something good we do for other people.
Rescuing is something we do for ourselves. It is something we do to prove something to ourselves or to gain something for ourselves.
In that process we disrespect and disempower the other person. We act from a superior, judgemental and self-righteous position while creating a false sense of value, usefulness, status and self-worth.
https://marlena.love/2020/05/28/some-uncomfortable-truths-about-rescuing

Identity

actions, beliefs, happiness, identity, lateposts, night, self, support, thoughts, understanding, views, writing

My Literary Fantasia

The whole concept of having a unique identity is a strangely comforting, yet terrifying thing to comprehend. In some ways, it is a way to show the world that you do not conform to their stereotypes and ideals. In other ways, it makes you a target – an archery post of sorts, for those wishing to lash out with their arrows of steel-tipped mercilessness. And still in other ways, it is a shroud of responsibility, one that tells you that you need to uphold this very notion of self.

Hello, reader.

This is a fairly unconventional way for me to start a post.

The truth is, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking into the concept of the self. What is it? How does one define it? Why does an idea such as this even exist? And how is this supposed “self” formed?

I hear the rabble-rousing of dogs outside…

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I need a little help to get by

adjust, assistance, challenges, change, difficulties, guidance, happiness, Help, Life, transformation

A Moment In My Mind

I don’t ask for help. I am just learning to ask for information I need for work or other things I may need answers too. This week of the flu and the revelations that lying in bed have provided has shown me that I need to ask for help, assistance and then receive it when it comes.

I need to look for more help, professional help to assist me understand what way next for me and what steps I need to get there. If I’m honest with myself the thought of progressing, changing and transforming my life scares me. Can you imagine having the life you’ve always wanted? Petrifying right?

So what is one of the main things that you know if you addressed it that would mean the ending and beginning of everything????

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