Gaslighting by definition is an act of undermining a partners emotions and feelings in a way to deny their reality

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By invalidating their feelings and emotions, the gaslightee is being told they are wrong. Gaslighting is most commonly seen in relationship dynamics as an attempt to control the moment. To stop the conflict. To ease the gaslighter’s anxiety, and to regain control in a degraded power struggle. Now before you gaslight me into calling me too sensitive, let me call attention to the fact disagreements, even arguments, are healthy in relationships. The difference between a healthy dynamic and an abusive one is hearing and validating the person’s concerns. If the person you are arguing with is deflecting responsibility in an attempt to tear down their partner, this is called gaslighting. Even better if the person being gaslit is a pleaser, trying to cater to other’s needs and expectations. I call this an easy mark. As an empath, I can often see my own responsibility in situations where I shouldn’t. I can EMPATHIZE with someone else’s reality and this can open the door to being taken advantage of, even gaslit.

https://mindfulafmama.wordpress.com/2020/11/19/smelling-fucking-gas

Negative feelings temper your enthusiasm with a dose of reality, and remind you that there are risks in everything you do

Give it a try. Sit down and think about one of the problems in your life. Really dwell on it. Think of all the reasons why it makes your hopes and dreams and goals impossible to accomplish. In your mind, let your problem put a negative slant on every aspect of your life. Then, start having some fun with it. Start with a little exaggeration. Add some melodrama, and maybe a little obscenity. Say to yourself something like, “The truth is, I can’t stand your little business venture. I hate you for even thinking of it. I thought things were fine just the way they were. I’m really too lazy to bother with all of it. I think I’ll just eat a lot of chocolate and get fat.”

https://jamiehowder.wordpress.com/2020/04/09/throw-a-tantrum