Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

active , gray , narcissism , narcissist , narcissistic abuse , passive , recovery , relationships , toxic people

Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people. This is easy if you are completely breaking ties with someone you can walk away from. But what about the people in your life you can’t escape?

Two summers ago I had a major altercation with my parents. We had not talked for months, and I was surprised when they asked to take me out to dinner.

The evening was fine. We discussed frivolous topics. Any time the conversation steered towards anything sensitive, I changed the subject. It was hard work for me. This is the part of “going gray” I did not understand – going gray is not a passive endeavor, it is an active technique.

I was exhausted by the end of the evening. As we left the restaurant my dad suggested we discuss what had happened over the summer. I…

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Building self empowerment

boundaries, gratitude, happiness, peace, peacewithinme, selfempowerment

Peace Within Me

It’s important to be discerning of how much time you choose to spend with people who may not be in alignment with your own nature or those you may feel constantly depleted after interacting with. Of course, you can still be accepting of them but looking after your own well-being as the priority.

Being responsible for your own peace of mind is using your own gauge as to how you feel with certain people and taking action as to how long you choose to spend in the interaction. This gets easier as you form clear boundaries within yourself as to what you choose to do for your own peace of mind.

Sometimes, it’s just a matter of firstly being conscious of how you do feel and listening to this indication. Then you can start to understand that your time is precious and the way you choose to use it can…

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Totally lost?

anxiety , aspergers syndrome , attachment theory , depression , loneliness

Freedom, Independence, and Loneliness

freedom , people , featured , realtionships , happiness , psychology , philosophy , loneliness

Flora Fiction

Outside, the sun shines through clouds, tempting those stuck behind a window, wishing they could feel it on their skin. As a prisoner of responsibility, one is never free of anything. There is always something keeping you back. When we think of freedom we think of it as having the capability to do whatever we want, whenever we want. Of course, the case isn’t true with the average person: there’s work, family, pets, bills, and so much more that we’re responsible for.

Freedom consists of three main principles:
1. The absence of human coercion or restraint preventing one from choosing the alternatives one would wish.
2. The absence of physical constraints in natural conditions which prevent one from achieving one’s chosen objectives.
3. The possession of the means or the power to achieve the objective one chooses of one’s own volition.
Rashan John, Pathanamthitta, Kerala, India

What happens when you…

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Judge less Forgive more…

ego, friends, Happiness, Love

Rads Blog

Ever wondered why you can never be mad at your mother for
very long? I Love my mom a lot, like almost all of us. If you see deep inside
its mainly because she loves you, accepts you, corrects you, does a thousand
other things and hence is just irreplaceable. Her entire life always revolves
around you. If we could just take the good part from this, try to use it in
every relationship we come across, we will have a beautiful life.

Mother not only loves you but also helps you become a better
individual, by being strict sometimes same goes with your teacher, your mentor,
or even your manager at work. They just want you to be better than what you
were before. If we do not put every
relationship we have, under the microscope, you will see things can work out
much better. It just takes few…

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Why We Should Not Take on Other People’s Problems: A Counselor’s Perspective

advice, psychology, psychotherapy, relationships, victim

Erin Theodorou, M.Ed, LPC, ACS, NCC

Have you ever found yourself growing frustrated because “that person just won’t listen to my advice,” or because “don’t they seem to recognize how they are hurting themselves by acting like that,” or because “I can’t believe someone could be so irresponsible.”

I know I am guilty of this from time to time.

These are coming refrains we say to ourselves when we are in the midst of taking on other people’s problems. Maybe we feel compelled to solve the problem for our loved ones. We can’t stand to watch them make a mess of themselves or their lives.

Yet we have no choice BUT to let other people live their lives. However they see fit. Without us making choices for them. Or telling them what we THINK is the right choice. The bottom line is we cannot make ANYONE do anything they do not want to do.

We…

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Things that get in the way of socializing

Like most people, we want at least someone with whom we can talk. We want a friend to cry with, or even laugh with. We need a deep connection with another human, to feel loved and validated.

Unfortunately, we have a few things that get in the way of socializing.

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Do you know what you are committed too?

Authentic Self, Authenticity, Commitment, Committed, Energy, Life, Mindful living, Mindfulness, Time, Toxic Commitment, Waste

Happiness or wellbeing?

happiness, meaning, wellbeing

David's Blog

Are you well? Are you happy? Can you be one without the other? And what is the difference anyway?

Kahneman and Riis explain that our sense of happiness is affected by two factors: how positive we feel right now (‘experienced’ happiness) and how positive we feel our life has been overall (‘evaluated’ happiness).

Wellbeing is more complex. It is a concept that incorporates happiness but also involves our perceived ability to function successfully in the world. How much control do you feel in life? How much meaning do you derive from life? How much do you feel that what you are doing matters?

Wellbeing is about good feelingandgood function. This is why Positive Education and Positive Psychology are, ultimately, focussed on developing wellbeing.

But don’t dismiss happiness itself. Remember that happiness, in its own right, is linked to better health, greater productivity, reduced depression, stronger relationships, and…

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About Me

carer , contentment , dreams , goals , happiness , health , innerpeace , journey , lifestyle , weightloss

peaceloveandpassion

Hello everyone!

Welcome to my blog! I’m 28 living in the Hertfordshire countryside. I decided to start this blog to document my journey into a happier, healthier, peaceful, more passionate lifestyle. I am currently a full time carer for two members of my immediate family, something which hopefully I will be able to balance more and allow me to venture into a new lifestyle I so desperately crave!

My life is taking care of other people, and while I love it, I also absolutely resent it. It is difficult, I have no contracted hours, I have no help, I don’t have sick pay. It all starts and ends with me. I recently had a an epiphany and realised I was not brought into this world to be a slave to everybody else. Usually I “finish” work and I have a banging headache because I’ve had no time to eat or…

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